Acknowledgements: Adapted and used by permission from an article by Dr. Laura Markham.
Background: It's just a conversation, where you practice listening and enjoying your child or the other person. This is a process of working out views and understanding each other better because they have the opportunity to express themselves. The most important take-away for your child or the other person feeling heard, seen and valued.
Start by asking your child or other person the question, and listen to the answer, remembering to reflect back what they are saying so they know you understand.
Discuss the following Questions:
- If we could go anywhere you wanted on vacation, where would you choose? Why?
If you could have a conversation with anyone in history, who would it be?
What would you want to ask them?
- If your best friend could be anyone from a book you have read, who would it be?
- What do you want to be when you grow up? Why? (This can be asked to adults as well!)
- Can you Draw a picture or write about any of these Questions?