Acknowledgements: Adapted and used by permission from an article by Dr. Laura Markham.
Background: It's just a conversation, where you practice listening and enjoying your child or the other person. This is a process of working out views and understanding each other better because they have the opportunity to express themselves. The most important take-away for your child or the other person feeling heard, seen and valued.
Start by asking your child or other person the question, and listen to the answer, remembering to reflect back what they are saying so they know you understand.
Discuss the following Questions:
- What is your earliest memory?
- What are you most proud of?
- If you had to choose only three words to describe yourself, what would you say?
Ask other people like family or friends what words they would use.
Did you learn anything about yourself from how others see you?
- What is your idea of an ideal day?
- Can you draw a picture or write a story or a poem or a song about any of the above topic’s.
Are you willing to share it with your family, friends?